Do you want deeper connection with those around you? Start with yourself.

Do you want deeper connection with those around you? Start with yourself.

I have recently been connecting with people who say that they want deep connections with the people in their lives. I know that I want this for myself. I want to really SEE the people around me, to know who they are: to hear the good, the bad, the beautiful. I decided to manifest other people into my life who wanted the same things. I have met a few people who also crave this deep soul connection, or so their words told me. The moment that they didn't like something that I had to say or if they felt I was being negative of them, they cut our acquaintance off. This really got me reflecting inwards. This is the type of behaviour that I used to portray all the time, but I realised that I don't do it as often anymore and I wondered why. I realise that it is because I love myself now. People can put me down and it even hurts but I can easily bounce back because I know that even with those flaws, I am a beautiful woman who genuinely wants the best for everyone around her. I wonder if these gorgeous, adorable, talented, interesting people that I met know that about themselves? We all have skills and weaknesses. By truly knowing these about ourselves, yet loving ourselves anyway we can have a wonderful life. 

I was recently at school with my wee 5 year old foster brother. It was writing time and the young girl beside him was having some trouble with her writing. She was doing everything she could to engage me in conversation because she was feeling bad about not being able to write very well. It broke my heart that she was even worried about this. It is my personal belief that children shouldn't even learn this until about the age of seven. Read with them and allow their brains to naturally see the patterning in the words and then they will be able to write with ease and confidence rather than struggling with 'not being good enough'. But I digress, I am good at that ;) When she asked about X's inability to write I decided that would be a good teaching moment. I explained that perhaps he would never be able to write and that was okay, because he had lots of other skills and talents and is loved deeply anyway. I then went on to ask her what SHE was good at. Now I wont go into detail as I live in a small town and it may be identifying information, however, when she started to tell me, her entire face lit up and I could see her relax. Isn't THIS the state that we should be in? In love with ourselves and the people around us??? It really comes back to loving ourselves and helping others around us to love themselves and perhaps those deep connections will occur naturally. This is my hope anyway, because I do still crave deeper connections. Do you? Or would you rather stay safe in the shallow 

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